Monday, November 30, 2009

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Follow Your Nose?

With the number of colognes, perfumes, deodorants and body lotions available on the market, you would think fragrance was the number one determinant of sex appeal and relationship success. Maybe, but probably not, says science gurus. Pheromones, chemicals that travel through the olfactory system to the brain, can trigger either a biological or behavioral response, and may account for changes in libido. But this does not necessarily provide an explanation as to why you find one person more appealing than another. There is some research that says pheromones could play a part in attraction, but it's more complex than that. It's usually sight that triggers attraction. And often, people are attracted to the stereotypical standards of beauty but I remember one time I followed a man around a grocery store until he left because he had my favorite cologne on.

Romantic Recipe


1/2 pint fresh strawberries

2 chocolate shells
1/2 cup raspberry sauce
1 cup romance whipped cream

Wash and slice raspberries. Fill Chocolate Shell half way with romance whipped cream (you can make a chocolate shell by coating the outside of a small round bowl/cup with melted chocolate -- put in freezer for 20 minutes and then fill the bowl/cup with warm water to remove the shell) Next place strawberries on top and dribble raspberry sauce over top and on plate. Garnish the top with a dollop of whipped cream and mint leaf.

Raspberry Sauce
1 12-ounce packages frozen unsweetened raspberries, thawed, with juices
1/2 cup sugar

Purée raspberries with juices and sugar in processor until smooth. Transfer mixture to strainer set over bowl; press on solids to extract as much liquid as possible; discard solids in strainer. (Can be made 2 days ahead. Cover and refrigerate.)

Makes about 1-1/2 cups.

Flirting Research

Perhaps the first serious study of flirting was done in the 1960's by Dr. Irenaus Eibl-Eibesfeldt, an eminent ethologist at the Max Planck Institute in Germany.

Dr. Eibl-Eibesfeldt traveled to cultures around the world with a camera that took pictures from the side so he could stand near couples and take their pictures without their realizing they were being observed.

In research in Samoa, Brazil, Paris, Sydney and New York, Dr. Eibl-Eibesfeldt discovered an apparently universal human vocabulary for flirting and courtship.

In humans, one such gesture is a palm-up placement of the hand, whether on a table or a knee, a reassuring sign of harmlessness.

Another submissive display is the shoulder shrug, which, ethologists suggest, derives from an ancient vertebrate reflex, a posture signifying helplessness.

A posture combining the partly shrugged shoulder and a tilted head-which displays the vulnerability of the neck-is commonly seen when two people who are sexually drawn to each other are having their first conversation.

Eye Contact

Usually the first contact made with a "Potentially Interesting Person" (from this point forward they will be referred to as "PIPs") is eye contact. There are several different types of eye contact.
Here is the "Across the Room" eye contact.
The ideal "Across the Room" eye-contact flirt only makes contact for two or three seconds, and then shyly, must turn away. Usually this will make you smile, which is again a perfect communication - friendly and pleasant. It shows you're happy that he looked back and showed interest in you. Even blushing works in your favor, so don't try to hide it. In these ways, you are using your nervous energy to your advantage. It's important that you let him catch you looking back at him. Subconsciously, this tells him you are interested. If he doesn't catch you looking back at him, he may decide you are not interested. Then he may not be able to get up the nerve to come over and start a conversation with you.

Side note: If he's looking at you when you look back at him, that's a pretty good sign he is interested in you.
If he isn't looking at you, that's not necessarily a sign that he's not interested in you. In a situation where you have the time, this entire sequence of looking, looking away and looking back, should repeat itself a few times before you move forward. This kind of eye-contact flirting is most effective in a restaurant, club, or in line at an amusement park or the DMV. Use it in any situation where you and the PIP are going to be in the same place for a while.

I want you for Christmas

If Santa comes down the chimney this year and trys to stuff you
into a sack, dont worry because I wanted you for Christmas.

Saturday, November 28, 2009

Flirting Tips 101

Ten flirting tips to get you started.

1. Attitude: If you don't have it, you can't flaunt it. The best flirts are risk takers with an unshakeable confidence.

2. Humor: A must-have. One of the core elements of a relationship is the ability to make the other person laugh; be it "at" or "with" you.

3. Believability: You have to believe you're a great catch or no one else will. Period. If you don't think you're worth it, you've lost the game before it's begun.

4. Assertiveness: Approach someone and start a conversation. And no, you do not have to be a male to make the first move. Welcome to the 21st century.

5. Accessorize: Not with jewelry and matching shoes, but with conversation starters like dogs, a good book, or a signature scent that's bound to attract attention.

6. Approachability: Nobody likes an ice-queen, or king for that matter. Force yourself to let your guard down and you'll make yourself more approachable.

7. Eye Contact: Don't stare the other person down; simply give them the attention and respect they deserve. BONUS: Direct eye contact also shows confidence!

8. Have Fun: Nothing says "comfortable" like a person who is willing to "let down their hair" and be spontaneous and goofy. It goes back to that humor thing!

9. Sincerity: If they are truly interested in you, they will want you to feel comfortable being the "real you." Don't be afraid to show a little vulnerability.

10. Smile: Not only does it show you're enjoying their company, it's contagious, and it makes you one hundred times more attractive and approachable!

Keep it Clean

PLEASE PLEASE do not use fowl language, keep it clean, or use dot dot dot. Flirting is not in bad taste so don't leave a bad taste in the mouth of your reader.

Watch it!

About this blog

This blog is about flirting. We all like to do it. Some of us are better at it than others. So I decided to create this blog for those of you who know how to flirt and want to share your experiences.

Maybe a beginner or two can learn a thing or two.
So tell me those flirting stories and maybe I can share a few of my own.