Sunday, February 21, 2010

The Mysterious Look

There are different definitions on how to look mysterious, depending on if you are a man or a woman.

A WOMAN can attain a mysterious look in a number of ways, beginning with hair. If you do not have bangs, get your hairdresser to create fluffy, long bangs. Longer bangs give you a chance to glance casually upwards through them at your guy.
Try wearing the same perfume, so that he associates you with a particular smell.

A MAN can attain a mysterious air about him with clothes. Black always makes a woman think that a man is mysterious, and slightly dangerous, which is always attractive.
Put on a light scent; nothing too strong or she’ll remember you as being a smelly, mysterious man.When it comes to hair, just make sure to keep it cut neatly and out of your eyes.

You can use these tips not only on a prospective date, but on someone you’ve been with for a long time!

Be Sincere

You might want to restrict all those one liners and erotic strip down stares to the clubs and the pick up joints. When you meet a girl or see her across the street, try being a little more discreet. A smile as you walk across her might be reciprocated, eventually, even if not on the first time. If you've already been introduced, then greet her and stop for a minute to ask her about her day. Be courteous and pleasant. Let her feel happy to have stopped by to converse with you even if it was just for a minute.

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

5 Great Places to Meet Guys

CONCERTS: He’s in a feel-good groove. And since you like the same music, he’s likely to groove with you!
GAS STATIONS: Filling up is boring. Pass time by trying the eye contact move on the guy two pumps over!
VOLUNTEERING: With all the great karma that comes from doing good, you’re sure to make a connection.
AMUSEMENT PARKS: Go in a group with an odd number — then ask a hot guy to sit with you on the Python!
WAITING IN LINE: You’re both at the mercy of the slow barista at Starbucks. Why not talk about it?

Monday, February 8, 2010

Don't Hurry Love

Don't be in such a hurry to choose a mate. Take your time to choose the right person and it should be done in a smart way. Maybe the person is beautiful or dashing; don't judge a mate only on his/her outer features. Learn what the other person loves to do and try to realize his/her nature before settling.

Dating doesn’t mean you have already committed to love someone. Go on a date with a new person, analyze them, and get to know more about them and about their family members, their interests and so on. You may share your dreams with this person. Express your principles and ethics of life. Learn how they take this information in and how much they value it. It is these type of things that is so important for a successful love life.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010


Laughter is contagious in the best possible way. Having a sense of humor is about relaxing and being in the moment – it is not about being cruel or catty telling jokes at another person's expense. A girl can always poke fun at herself (though it is wise to remember there is a fine line between complaining about those jiggly thighs and sounding like a basket case with low self-esteem). But remember to laugh loud and often. At the very least, it guarantees a good time.

Monday, January 25, 2010

Romantic Ideas for Valentines Day

The number one idea is to make her feel special.
Hand make a coupon book for your honey is the best gift for those of you on a budget and it shows your thoughtfulness - what is more romantic than that?

Here are a few ideas to get you started
This coupon offers you one deep shoulder massage
This coupon is good for one free night with the remote control
I’ll fix dinner tonight coupon
This coupon is good for one day of your activity of choice
This coupon gives you one free strip tease
A coupon is good for 1 hour of cuddling
This coupon is good for 2 loads of laundry

For you Guys - Her valentine gift ideas
You guys always wait till the last minute for this very special lover’s day. Get on the ball this year here are some great gift ideas besides chocolates.
Massage oils, A romantic music CD, Candles, Body lotions, Perfume, Tickets to a play, concert or the movie that she wants to see, buy her a dress and take her dancing, heart shaped earrings, a heart shaped charm for her charm bracelet (or start her a charm bracelet with your charm), or buy her a new key chain and go to a retail store where they make copies of keys and purchase a blank key add it to the ring and it could be the key to your heart.

Other ideas:
Make her a Valentine’s Day Card
Write her a poem
Surprise her with a limousine ride for the night
Call her at work and play your song
A Night Under the Stars and take a Picnic
Surprise her after work or school and take her to happy hour
Write a romantic note in place it in a place she will to find later
Sprinkle rose petals in her car or room with a great valentine’s day card at the end of the trail

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Online Dating Don'ts

Online dating has its Con's. The good news is most of these can be overcome with some simple preparation and a few precautions.

Don't give out private information
Not at least until you are comfortable with your potential partner. This would include your private email address, your telephone number, and any Instant Messenger accounts you're using.

Don't use bad language
There's no need to use bad language in your profile. You want to look smart and cultured, not bargain-basement.

Don't be negative
If you're a pessimist, say instead that you're realistic! If you feel over weight, say instead you're big and beautiful! If you've had a difficult time in your life, say instead that you're at a cross roads - as one door closes another opens...

If meeting for the first time
Playing it Safe, safety should be a principal concern. Meet in a public place first during the day, maybe coffee or lunch.

Remember you are marketing yourself and like any marketing campaign first impressions count, so wear something smart and comfortable. Don't talk about yourself all the time. Show interest in what your date has to say about themselves, and remember to compliment them.

Misrepresentation online is a serious concern for genuine online dating users. As a result some sites offer marital status and criminal background checks for their members. However, even if a site does not provide a verification service, by employing basic safety guidelines you can make sure you play safely online, and when you eventually meet face to face.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

When Is Flirting A Problem

Flirting can also be a problem. Ask yourself if any of these five signs are true. They're all red flags that you should cut down on your flirting:
1. You're leading on guys you don't even like. If you're flirting 'cause you need the attention - and not 'cause you actually like the guys you're chatting up - then you're doing it for the wrong reason.
2. You flirt with other girls' boyfriends. All flirters need to recognize who's off-limits. Even if you like a guy, it's totally against girl-code to act all cutesy around him if he's got a girlfriend.
3. You lie when you flirt. Pretending to be someone you're not will only make you feel bad about the person you really are.
4. Guys you date are afraid you'll cheat on them. When you're in a relationship, you can pal around with other guys - but the fun ends when the people you care about lose trust in you.
5. Your friends tease you about how much you flirt. Yeah, it's kinda fun to laugh along with them. Deep down, though, there's some truth to all their jokes.
Bottom line: flirting is fun - but if you flirt so much that you're doing damage to your relationships - and your reputation - then you've got a problem.

Monday, January 4, 2010


Ever really listen to girls talking about guys, you'll often hear them use the word "ANNOYING" to describe them and the things they do. But on the other hand you will never hear that from a girlfriend when she talks about a guy whom she is ATTRACTED to. Well, after taking note and paying attention to the local girl talk what is it that really makes him annoying?

And guess what I realized to be the root of the problem - IT'S ALMOST ALWAYS A WUSSY BEHAVIOR!
So here is a list of things that many girls consider to be "annoying":
- Calling too often
- Telling her that you have "feelings" for her too early
- Giving away your power to her and making her the boss
- Always asking a woman what she wants instead of leading
- Acting submissive and weak
- Accepting her demands, bossy-ness, and manipulative requests
- Being her doormat and putting your own needs aside

"WHAT?" you say. "HOW COULD THIS BE?"… you might be thinking how is it possible that demonstrating your affection for a woman by calling her, telling her how you feel, letting her make the decisions, and putting her first could be considered ANNOYING, of all things? Well guess what IT IS!

Women, and ESPECIALLY the most ATTRACTIVE and desirable women, usually consider the above things to be VERY annoying. Of course, the reason for this is because no matter how good these kinds of behaviors seem on the surface, there's only one conclusion that can be drawn from them: THE GUY DOING THEM IS 100% CERTIFIABLE WUSSY! I know this seems a little severe but as far as generalizations go, this particular one is as close to being true all the time as it gets. It's because she finds your nice-guy "Wuss" behaviors to be ANNOYING. HEY it gets worse. To further confuse things, who hasn’t heard …"I want a STRONG guy who is also SENSITIVE…" or "He needs to have his own life, and his own friends but also be totally focused on me…" Girls often talk about wanting a combination of things in a guy that just don't seem to fit… Are girls crazy? (Yes.)

But seriously, what are they talking about? How is it that girls seem to always talk about wanting guys who have these qualities that don't fit together? You see, when a girl says that she wants a "strong guy who's also sensitive", that's what she MEANS. Remember, ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE and is not always rational either. It happens in an INSTANT, and it happens for all kinds of "irrational" reasons… reasons that even the girls who are feeling it can't usually describe.

So what's the answer here? Review the list above and try to stop annoying us. Yeah I know and it is hard to understand but doing things that seem to be "inconsiderate" in order to give us what we REALLY want (which is a guy who is in control of himself, the situation, and often her). Lean back, act cocky & funny around girls And LEAD the way, don't follow.

Raise your right hand, and repeat after me…"I will stop being a Wussy."

Thursday, December 31, 2009

Learn the Art of Conversing

Advice by Zee BMen know how to talk. A man is smooth and doesn't slur. So be composed and clear when you talk. Talk in simple words and be charming. If you have to approach a girl, or are being introduced to one, then speak pleasantly and courteously.
Most men think that popularity and charm depends entirely on the ability to talk tongue in cheek. You don't have to be a great conversationalist nor do you have to be a stand up comedian to woo a girl. The way a man talks tells a lot about himself. Listen to someone for a while and you would be able to tell if he is boring, kind, selfish, open minded or pig headed! Learn to pay attention when she talks and reciprocate cheerfully. Let her know that you are taking in every word she says. Basically, let her love talking to you.

Friday, December 18, 2009

Leave them wanting MORE!

You want to leave your beloved wanting more. It’s similar to eating a succulent strawberry. If you eat the entire strawberry in one bite, it’s all gone.
If, however, you take only a small bite out of the strawberry, your appetite gets whetted for more. Make your beloved want more, by giving them only a little taste of who you really are.
Do NOT lie about yourself: that sets up the relationship for a disastrous ending.
Instead, give a piece at a time. Giving your name, if they don’t already know it, is the perfect place to start. You do not need to give a last name, or a middle name; just a first name, or whatever it is you prefer to be called.
Last names can wait until you know each other a bit better. If they ask what your last name is, say something silly and sexy, such as: “Stick around long enough and you’ll find out.”

Saturday, December 12, 2009


If you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours!

Give someone a genuine compliment this season! If you like it, say it! See who it makes feel better you or them.

Men's Seduction

Advice by Zee B
Ok, so you want to learn the art of the pick up and I would love to see comments of your own successful pick up techniques. Well if you are like most guys then you need a lot of work! The issue is when trying to pick up a girl you try too hard. The name of the game is to impress a girl but not in the usual way. Most guys have exactly the same approach when they see a girl that they like. However, this lame approach rarely works and girls have perfected their own defense mechanisms for warding off unwanted attention from you guys! You must be subtle about your approach and attraction-building and use her defense mechanisms against her.
Pushing her emotional hot-buttons will work greatly to your advantage. This is exactly what the best pick up artists do!
First off, when going out, try not to think too much that you're out to meet girl. Instead view it as a social experiment where you’re out to meet new people! When you approach a girl DO NOT become too invested in the pick-up or the interaction. So what if you don’t get her number! There are plenty more fish in the sea.
This attitude will keep you sharp and ensure you are unaffected by any rejection that you may experience. However, there is another side-effect of this attitude – it is one of the very things that make you attractive to a girl!

By having a “take you or leave you” type attitude and being unaffected by her opinion of you; you are displaying higher social standing! If she doesn’t want to talk to you it’s her loss because you are popular and in demand! So talk to lots of people. Learn to be a “people person”. Smile and nod and become comfortable interacting with new people you meet. Single girls notice these small things.
Don't get too hung-up on one girl. That is the frequent mistake most men make. They try and provoke one girl, get rejected and then give up completely. Work the room!
Bear in mind that rejection can only make you better at the pick-up. When you start don’t expect every woman to say “yes” to you. Your failures will act as learning experiences and through practice you will know exactly what to do and say depending on the situation you are in and the people you are talking to.
Make sure you are in a crowd and take the leader role in it. If the crowd look like they are enjoying themselves and laughing this will be noticed by girls. So seek the company of fun friends. You can be in the company of both men and women as this will not affect your chances of picking-up another girl but only make you more attractive.
Sometimes you should use your friends for social networking. This is especially true of your female friends. Get them to introduce you to their single girlfriends!

Friday, December 11, 2009

A flirty Striptease can be the best Present

Afraid of Bringing Out the Little Sex Kitten in You, and Reveal it to Your Mate?
One you got the guy it might be fun to do some flirting with a striptease. It could be the perfect Christmas gift. All You need for a good strip tease is a little imagination, a bit of courage, and a sense of adventure. It can be a huge turn-on, and not just for your guy. Shedding your inhibitions to get dressed down and show off your body is sexy, not to mention loads of fun. Here I will tell you more about the flirty art of a strip tease.

Stripping for your guy can make you feel a lot more sexier and comfortable with your own body, which in turn is great for your sex life. You don't need a fireman's pole to floor your mate, although you might want to consider one since they are popular now but just use your imagination. Just use a hint of confidence and loads of mischievous attitude. Learn to love your body and watch how you can make your mate love your body too! Remember, you're hot stuff!

Practice in the mirror. Work your head, and get into the groove. Picture yourself gyrating and dancing, and figure out what makes you feel sexiest. Is it your butt, your breasts or your shoulders? Emphasize more on the assets you're ready to bare and do a good job at working it. The key to get confident is to imagine yourself and do what you think will make you look hot. TIP: No-jumping-jacks-when-you're-naked. That's not sexy, it's actually quite repulsive.

Mood music! That's just the right thing you need to add a bit of zing to your mind and assets. While you're out clubbing, have you ever realized that you feel sexier when you're dancing to a particular song, rather than the others? Now that's your calling card. And that's your magic move, baby!

Clothes are pretty much the most important thing, even though you're going to take it all off. Getting naked is the last act, but your clothes remain all the way to the end, so focus on your clothes. What does your mate like? Wear something your mate thinks looks hot on you. These days, lots of stores have cropped up with naughty lingerie or costumes, and if you can't find anything you like there, get online. They don't cost much, and you'd have your costumes delivered in a couple of days.

Lights, my advice for starters, dim the lights to add that bit of romance and mystery. And more than all of that, dim the light to hide your awkwardness. But not so much that your mate will have a hard time finding you! Or have one bedside lamp on beside you, while you move to the music. You'll have your mate begging to touch you in no time! Also think about props I bet you can come up with something.

Does your guy like your butt? Then show it all off! If you've got something, flaunt it, shake it and let your mate crave for it! That's why you've been given that body in the first place. Go around your mate, touch them seductively and tease them. Go on until they beg you to let them hold you, and if your mate is a bit too frisky, have their hands tied to the back of the chair or to the bed post. And to rub it in, you could also undress your mate while you get clothes off your body. So by the time you're finished with yourself, you'd have your mate ready for you too.
Taking your mate's clothes off with your teeth can be extremely arousing, just as long as your hands are running all over their body. And one more thing, you really need to go slow with the strip, because the strip is what makes the tease. Don't rush it while taking your clothes off let him wait for the grand finale, so until then, just have fun.

The final act, and it all comes down to this one moment. Every minute of the act has to be interesting, and yet, the final act has to be awesome. And that's what you've got to do, give your mate a showdown that would have their eyes popping out! Keep your G-strings or briefs on until this one moment of glory, and at the last stroke take it all off, and just watch your mate while you're in the buff. Feel sexy, and fall in love with your own body. For the curtain call, walk right up to your mate and finish the show with a much deserved lap dance, or just go down on your knees. A good strip tease will leave you with a lot of confidence and a lot of sex appeal, and not to mention, a lot more carpet burns!

HEY guys it might be fun to see you do a striptease too!

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Look sharp and the ladies might take a second look!

Advice by Zee B
In a world of no women, a man can walk around his house wearing boxers. He can kick a beer can off the floor into the aquarium. He can burp and fart and no one would even bother to give you a second glance. There would be not one girl who would ever say "Aren't you going to shave?" or "Why is the toilet seat up?"
But since this is not the case! Men have to groom themselves to seem like you have a million bucks pasted all over them. So your first priority should be looking sharp, stop dressing like Bevis and Butthead. Instead, try to do something that would make you look better. And always look good, at least as good as you can. Go get yourself a new hairstyle, pick up a few smells that would highlight your personality and style. Basically, do all the works and the ladies might take a second look.

Saturday, December 5, 2009

Holiday Party Provides Flirting Opportunities

What better way to flirt and celebrate than to give a little Holiday party.
Invite friends and have them maybe bring one or two of their friends you don't know. This could be new flirting opportunities. Ask them to bring finger foods and desserts and you supply the punch. I searched the web and found a few really cool recipes, ones I will be trying myself. I have always wanted a really good Sangria recipe and I think I found one.

The Best Sangria Recipe
Loads of review on this one and one reviewer left out the sugar.
• 1/2 cup brandy
• 1/4 cup lemon juice
• 1/3 cup frozen lemonade concentrate
• 1/3 cup orange juice
• 1 (750 milliliter) bottle dry red wine
• 1/2 cup triple sec
• 1 lemon, sliced into rounds
• 1 orange, sliced into rounds
• 1 lime, sliced into rounds
• 1/4 cup white sugar (optional)
• 8 maraschino cherries
• 2 cups carbonated water (optional)
1. In a large pitcher or bowl, mix together the brandy, lemon juice, lemonade concentrate, orange juice, red wine, triple sec, and sugar. Float slices of lemon, orange and lime, and maraschino cherries in the mixture. Refrigerate overnight for best flavor. For a fizzy sangria, add club soda just before serving.

Holiday Cheer

Wintry Wine Punch

• 2 cups water
• 1 cup sugar
• 3 cinnamon sticks
• 8 cloves
• 10 allspice berries
• Tablespoon of minced ginger
• Zest of 1 orange, removed with vegetable peeler in 1-inch-wide strips
• 1/2 cup fresh orange juice
• One 750-ml bottle Syrah or other full-bodied red wine
• Orange slices, for garnish
NOTE: The punch can be refrigerated overnight. Reheat gently before serving.
• In a medium saucepan, combine the water with the sugar, cinnamon sticks, cloves, allspice berries, ginger and orange zest. Bring to a boil over moderate heat, stirring, until the sugar dissolves. Lower the heat and simmer the syrup for 5 minutes. Remove from the heat and let the syrup steep for 25 minutes.
• Add the orange juice, then strain the syrup into a medium bowl. Wipe out the saucepan, add the red wine and spiced syrup and heat until simmering. Carefully pour the spiced wine into heatproof glasses, garnish the glasses with orange slices and serve the punch warm or at room temperature in a punch bowl.

Christmas Cranberry Cheer
• 64-ounce cranberry juice cocktail, chilled
• 1 bottle red wine, chilled
• 1/3 cup bottled sweetened lime juice
• 1 liter bottle lemon-lime soda
1. Mix all ingredients in a large punch bowl.
2. Add Holiday Cheer Ice Cubes Splash, recipe below.
3. Serve.

Friday, December 4, 2009

Flirting With Permanence

Submitted by Muser

You may consider flirting to be like the whisper
of butterfly wings in a flower’s ear or the light
touch of infinite possibility when skin brushes
skin. I’ve been sent to remind you, when the

time comes, to flirt with your long-space
companion, your spouse, the main squizzle,
that one to whom you plighted all the troth
you could muster, lo these many groovitudinous

moons ago. After many a season,
the faithful swan still flirts. Sure, anybody
can play at romance with strangers and
newly-mets in an amateur’s hour

of quips and blinking, glances
and sinking sight-lines. More’s required
of those who would flirt with them whom
they know, with those what’s seen practically

every flirtational tactic--all the plays and their
variations under the bodacious sun. Yes:
how to make eyes and otherwise surprise
a long-loved lover? That’s the question,

and if you’re a crafty pro-amateur, you
know the answer and flirt all right already
with the belle or beau you first flirted with
longtemps ageau. To tease pleasingly

a person you permanently love summons
a certain sagacious whimsy from you—
when the time comes, as I say,
and after it's stayed.

Copyright Hans Ostrom 2009

Seduce Gorgeous Shorties - Have Fun By Flirting!!

Contrary to what most guys believe, pretty much any guy can learn to be appealing to girls. Of course, if you’re entirely hideous and haven’t washed for a month, this guide isn’t going to help you in the slightest.
GO TAKE A BATH and if you’re hideous- sorry your not better looking.
But for the rest of you, here’s some dynamite info that’ll help you sky rocket your success with the ladies. It’s no magic bullet, and usually not enough to make her fall head over heels for you, but it’ll certainly see you have a good time, and really enjoy yourself when talking to her.
#1 Eye contact a-plenty guys! Seriously, if you look her in the eye when speaking, it conveys a commanding but not domineering vibe, which you’ll find the girls will respond.
#2 Humor and wit will keep a girl interested in you. Put a play on words and some sexual metaphor (only when appropriate). Girls enjoy a witty, fun, and playful conversation just as much as we do. May funny comments about things around you or whatever pops to mind at the time. If she’s fun at heart you can even poke a little fun at her conversation.
#3 Light touching, I don’t mean fondle her left and right, unless of course she is in to that. If you’ve been having fun and holding an interesting conversation, doing lots of eye contact, and laughing like hell and she’s showing signs of interest you might touch her arm, brushing her leg against yours, or ‘accidently’ touching you. At this point it’s okay to touch back in the same manner. If you feel the chemistry building, and you’re certain you’re comfortable together, feel free to take things further.
That’s it guys - the socially accepted guide to flirting. If you’d like to take a more in depth and speedier approach visit an Adult XXX Dating Service Online and get laid tonight.

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Mysterious Flirting: Playing a TRUE Hard to Get

Everyone loves a mysterious person. If you’re looking to attract a member of the opposite sex, you would do well to become a little mysterious yourself. Everyone’s heard that you should play hard to get in order to attract the person you like. BUT there’s one problem with this: if you play hard to get too hard, you might become hard to want.
People that remain too aloof from their hearts desire often give the wrong impression. Their standoffishness makes the other person believe that you have no interest in them, which makes them, in turn, change their interest away from you and towards someone who will appreciate their advances, however subtle.
Instead of playing hard to want, play a true hard to get.
Let them know that you’re interested in them by using a little flirting! Flirting can be done tastefully, and will let your crush know that you got your eye on them. Above all, make sure that you acknowledge any advances that are made. If their eyes fall on yours, make sure they know that you have seen them. If they smile at you, smile back!

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

It's Zee B, with Men's Advice

Ok, my friend Daisy pulled me into her blog and the nice guy I am AND hey she's hot. Plus we have been friends for years we dated years ago but found we always made just better friends and yada yada yeda. I SAID YES! She wanted a man's point of view PLUS I wanted to always include my icon of pick my brain and she agreed. It will be my signature, check it out.

I will probably jump around on topics and maybe ask my friends both male and female for tips to share.


Most Women like Men to make the first Move

Advice by Zee B
I was chatting with a guy in my favorite chat room yesterday and he was telling me that he’d been at this sexy dating chat room service for nearly 2 years and had never been what he’d call successful in dating women. I’m always up for a challenge like that, and I had seen him in the chat room on quite a few occasions so I knew he was truthful when he said he’d been around for a while. I looked up his details and then ran a scan of the mail logs for his nick. Sure enough in 2 years he had never sent ONE initial email. He’d answered a few but he’d never sent one. So I asked why.
He told me he’d have to be a VIP member to send an email so he just waited around til someone wrote to him. So I asked him why again? Was the cost of the membership so much that he couldn’t afford it and if so, how did he plan to entertain a woman if he found one. He said that he felt that all sites were ripoffs and that he stayed at this site because all the people seemed real and he could talk to them for nothing.
I had to bite my fingers or say something I’d regret, so I said that if the people seemed real and he got so much for free, why wouldn’t he consider upgrading to move things from the computer to real life? He said maybe he should think about that but he always hoped that the women would find his ad and write to him – somehow that would make them more sincere. Women don’t peruse the profiles as much as men hope they do. They don’t have to because the hunter in a man gets there first.
I asked him how many times had he been to a party, bar or club and had had tons of women try to pick him up? He admitted that it had never happened that way and he’d always had to make the first move.
He GOT IT - He took my advice and at that moment joined the site. He processed to write to about 30 women that interested him and he got 5 replies within 5 hours and he just had to tell me. I did give him some tips on that first email but he did it all on his own.
The moral of the story is that regardless of women’s liberation and assertive women – the majority of women wait for a man to take that first step.

Flirting in the Gym

I’m a huge proponent of meeting people via activities such as the gym or any health club. But I can see where some of us might be a bit concerned about getting to know someone who makes your heart go pitty-patter while you are busy huffing and puffing on the treadmill.
Fear not, let the lesson begin -- flirty and charming while you work-out.
Don’t let the fact that you are about to get physical keep you from putting an ounce of effort into your overall look. I’m certainly not suggesting that you wear your best Saturday night clubbing skirt with that sparkly eye-shadow but take a little bit of pride in attempting to appear as though you didn’t try too hard to look good and try to stay as if you look natural. Show off a bit of your style by wearing funky arm warmers or a pair of socks with bling but keep it simple and just look adorable.
Don’t worry about the sweat. You’re both going to be doing it. If you like each other, you’ll survive. Trust me. If you cannot sweat in front of each other, it wasn’t meant to be but remember to wear deodorant. Hey your crush will be sweating too and they’ll feel more at ease if you too have a bead of sweat not to mention you will have a bit of glow!
If you get one-on-one time, be yourself! Whether you are taking a jog, a bike ride, or getting silly with table tennis or the Wii Fit, use your exercise time as a jumping off point to talking to the fabulous person next to you!

Monday, November 30, 2009

Give me your suggestions

Give me your comments, suggestions or remarks as to what followers would like to see on this blog. THANKS

Follow Your Nose?

With the number of colognes, perfumes, deodorants and body lotions available on the market, you would think fragrance was the number one determinant of sex appeal and relationship success. Maybe, but probably not, says science gurus. Pheromones, chemicals that travel through the olfactory system to the brain, can trigger either a biological or behavioral response, and may account for changes in libido. But this does not necessarily provide an explanation as to why you find one person more appealing than another. There is some research that says pheromones could play a part in attraction, but it's more complex than that. It's usually sight that triggers attraction. And often, people are attracted to the stereotypical standards of beauty but I remember one time I followed a man around a grocery store until he left because he had my favorite cologne on.

Romantic Recipe


1/2 pint fresh strawberries

2 chocolate shells
1/2 cup raspberry sauce
1 cup romance whipped cream

Wash and slice raspberries. Fill Chocolate Shell half way with romance whipped cream (you can make a chocolate shell by coating the outside of a small round bowl/cup with melted chocolate -- put in freezer for 20 minutes and then fill the bowl/cup with warm water to remove the shell) Next place strawberries on top and dribble raspberry sauce over top and on plate. Garnish the top with a dollop of whipped cream and mint leaf.

Raspberry Sauce
1 12-ounce packages frozen unsweetened raspberries, thawed, with juices
1/2 cup sugar

Purée raspberries with juices and sugar in processor until smooth. Transfer mixture to strainer set over bowl; press on solids to extract as much liquid as possible; discard solids in strainer. (Can be made 2 days ahead. Cover and refrigerate.)

Makes about 1-1/2 cups.

Flirting Research

Perhaps the first serious study of flirting was done in the 1960's by Dr. Irenaus Eibl-Eibesfeldt, an eminent ethologist at the Max Planck Institute in Germany.

Dr. Eibl-Eibesfeldt traveled to cultures around the world with a camera that took pictures from the side so he could stand near couples and take their pictures without their realizing they were being observed.

In research in Samoa, Brazil, Paris, Sydney and New York, Dr. Eibl-Eibesfeldt discovered an apparently universal human vocabulary for flirting and courtship.

In humans, one such gesture is a palm-up placement of the hand, whether on a table or a knee, a reassuring sign of harmlessness.

Another submissive display is the shoulder shrug, which, ethologists suggest, derives from an ancient vertebrate reflex, a posture signifying helplessness.

A posture combining the partly shrugged shoulder and a tilted head-which displays the vulnerability of the neck-is commonly seen when two people who are sexually drawn to each other are having their first conversation.

Eye Contact

Usually the first contact made with a "Potentially Interesting Person" (from this point forward they will be referred to as "PIPs") is eye contact. There are several different types of eye contact.
Here is the "Across the Room" eye contact.
The ideal "Across the Room" eye-contact flirt only makes contact for two or three seconds, and then shyly, must turn away. Usually this will make you smile, which is again a perfect communication - friendly and pleasant. It shows you're happy that he looked back and showed interest in you. Even blushing works in your favor, so don't try to hide it. In these ways, you are using your nervous energy to your advantage. It's important that you let him catch you looking back at him. Subconsciously, this tells him you are interested. If he doesn't catch you looking back at him, he may decide you are not interested. Then he may not be able to get up the nerve to come over and start a conversation with you.

Side note: If he's looking at you when you look back at him, that's a pretty good sign he is interested in you.
If he isn't looking at you, that's not necessarily a sign that he's not interested in you. In a situation where you have the time, this entire sequence of looking, looking away and looking back, should repeat itself a few times before you move forward. This kind of eye-contact flirting is most effective in a restaurant, club, or in line at an amusement park or the DMV. Use it in any situation where you and the PIP are going to be in the same place for a while.

I want you for Christmas

If Santa comes down the chimney this year and trys to stuff you
into a sack, dont worry because I wanted you for Christmas.

Saturday, November 28, 2009

Flirting Tips 101

Ten flirting tips to get you started.

1. Attitude: If you don't have it, you can't flaunt it. The best flirts are risk takers with an unshakeable confidence.

2. Humor: A must-have. One of the core elements of a relationship is the ability to make the other person laugh; be it "at" or "with" you.

3. Believability: You have to believe you're a great catch or no one else will. Period. If you don't think you're worth it, you've lost the game before it's begun.

4. Assertiveness: Approach someone and start a conversation. And no, you do not have to be a male to make the first move. Welcome to the 21st century.

5. Accessorize: Not with jewelry and matching shoes, but with conversation starters like dogs, a good book, or a signature scent that's bound to attract attention.

6. Approachability: Nobody likes an ice-queen, or king for that matter. Force yourself to let your guard down and you'll make yourself more approachable.

7. Eye Contact: Don't stare the other person down; simply give them the attention and respect they deserve. BONUS: Direct eye contact also shows confidence!

8. Have Fun: Nothing says "comfortable" like a person who is willing to "let down their hair" and be spontaneous and goofy. It goes back to that humor thing!

9. Sincerity: If they are truly interested in you, they will want you to feel comfortable being the "real you." Don't be afraid to show a little vulnerability.

10. Smile: Not only does it show you're enjoying their company, it's contagious, and it makes you one hundred times more attractive and approachable!

Keep it Clean

PLEASE PLEASE do not use fowl language, keep it clean, or use dot dot dot. Flirting is not in bad taste so don't leave a bad taste in the mouth of your reader.

Watch it!

About this blog

This blog is about flirting. We all like to do it. Some of us are better at it than others. So I decided to create this blog for those of you who know how to flirt and want to share your experiences.

Maybe a beginner or two can learn a thing or two.
So tell me those flirting stories and maybe I can share a few of my own.